Signs hes gay

If your boyfriend cries during sad movies or gets upset about issues that are important to him, it doesn’t mean he’s gay. It’s acceptance. They come out because they feel seen, safe, and free.

Friendship and “Gaydar”: Where It Gets Murky

Maybe you’re not romantically involved at all. He flirts with men

Some guys are just really friendly and touchy-feely with everyone, so this one can be tricky.

Maybe he gets defensive or distant when people get too close.

He fixates on people’s sexuality

Does your boyfriend seem overly obsessed with other people’s sexuality? He makes ‘jokes’ about hot guys

There’s no doubt that men notice other attractive men, but most heterosexual guys will keep the thought to themselves. If he’s wrestling with attraction that he doesn’t understand—or doesn’t want to admit—he might express that confusion through erratic or emotionally guarded behavior.

That doesn’t make him dishonest or deceptive.

Not all avoidance is about sexuality. People often reveal their truth in environments where they don’t feel analyzed, questioned, or evaluated. But exploring the signs a guy is secretly gay must always come from a place of respect, not speculation. No doubt you’re also feeling pretty confused and wondering how to deal with the situation.

It’s a very sensitive situation to deal with, and you need to make sure you respect his feelings.

Until then, you can still choose compassion over curiosity, presence over pressure, and connection over control.

Because the real question isn’t “Is he gay?” The real question is, “Am I someone who knows how to love people without needing to define them first?”